I wanted to start my own blog for a long time now and I am really excited to be able to do so finally!!

This is where i can my voice my thoughts, without any restrictions and fear of people judging me and my character. This is what i would like to call to as “my place” 😉

I needed this because for a very long period of time voicing my opinions about someone or somethings for some reason makes me a bad person.Having strong opinions and strongly opposing something which is not right by a woman is still considered to be inappropriate  in this society.

I am here to break every stereotype as to how a woman should behave. I will write whatever i want, however i want. If u don’t like what i have to say u can leave, nobody is forcing you to stay 🙂

So now I would like to end my first blog post with a poem which is very close to my heart from milk and honey by rupi kaur(which is a must read book for every woman out there ) :

You tell me to quiet down cause

My opinions make me less beautiful

But i was not made with a fire in my belly 

So i could be put out

I was not made with a lightness on my tongue

So i could be easy to swallow

I was made heavy

Half blade and  half silk

Difficult to forget and not easy

For the mind to follow

Bye for now take care !!

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What is love ? (1 min. Read)

Susan sontag famously wrote, “Nothing is mysterious, no human relation , except love.”

No one rises in love or climbs in love. You always fall in love, because something of who you are has to go. If not the whole of you, atleast a part of you should collapse. Only then there is a love affair.

Love can be a connection to something greater than ourselves, or the thing that shows us who we really are. 

It is the oldest feeling in the world, yet somehow always feels new. You can transmute love, ignore it, muddle it, but you can never pull it out of you.

9 Important lessons I learned in my twenties..

I am currently 21 years old ( turning 22 this august, time flies you guys). 2015 was very difficult for me, it changed my life. It also taught me some very valuable lessons which i would like to share with you all…
1. “You are responsible for your own happiness. “

 Letting negative opinions, thoughts or people affect you is the worse thing you can do to yourself. Happiness comes from within and you yourself should be in charge of your own happy self.

2. Life is too short to plan everything, so  live in the moment.”

 I learned this the hard way, when my father passed away. He had so much to do for his and our future. So much to do with his life. He had  planned everything out but he never got the chance. He was gone in a moment. 

This hit me hard and  made me realise how important it is for us to savour every moment and how lucky we are to even experience it. Planning is necessary but so does enjoying every minutes of our lives and being present with ourselves.

3. ” If you want to do something, do it as soon as possible. “

Because once procrastination kicks in.. you know the rest… We all have been there lol

4. “Learn to love yourself  

If you want to be loved by others then you got to love yourself. Embrace your flaws and your beautiful scars. Its our little imperfections that makes us unique. If we ourself aren’t okay with them who else will be ? 

5. ” Speak your heart out.”

Learn  to voice your thoughts and opinions. You can’t expect others to be your voice. Speak your heart and mind out even if someone disagrees. You need to be heard and  in order to be heard you need to speak what’s on your mind. Don’t let anybody believe you otherwise.

6. “Don’t Gossip.”

 It’s just a waste of time and energy. Let’s be more concerned with what’s going in our lives than others. It will be more effective i guess..

7. ” Health is wealth.”

It’s pretty much self explanatory. If you want to improve your efficiency then you you got to improve your health and change your lifestyle. Nothing in this world is more important than your health. 

8. “Stay humble and be kind.”

Gratitude is important. Be grateful for everything in life, the good and the bad. And stay humble.

9. ” Do not fear adversity. “

Adversities provide opportunity for introspection. Instead of fearing them we should learn from them and grow as a person.

So these are some of the things i learned over the years. Comment down below some of your valuable lessons over the years I would love to hear from you all . 

Have a happy day/evening/night.💞

Xoxo

Ghosts Of Past (2 min. Read)

Have you ever made a mistake in silliness without thinking about the consequence. Without realising that somehow this one silly mistake can take you on a journey of regret suffering but will eventually help you in understanding life a little better.

Sometimes i think that my life is dramtic enough to be a Netflix series. 

I commited a mistake alright.. I know i shouldn’t have done what i did but no one in the world has regretted it more than me. It’s been a year or two now since then but i am still sorry for what i did back then. I didn’t harm anyone don’t worry but i damaged my self respect in the process.

I can say that about now i am quite over it.. Just imagine you being on the verge of forgiving yourself for commiting any past mistake which no one expected it of you (and only close friends and family members are aware of it)  but the all of a sudden somehow everyone starts to give you this weird look that you couldn’t help but imagine that they know what you did…That your big secret has been leaked !!!

The ghosts of past never really leaves you. It always haunts you when you are your weakest self. Living with the ghost of past amongst the the weird stares and people judging. You realise that it doesn’t really matter what people think of you or how they gonna see you or what you have done in your past life. 

What matters is that how i am gonna see myslef ? Will i let those ugly stares get to me ? Are those people who are judging me right now themselves never made mistakes ? 

Life is a compilation of small and big mistakes from which we learn and grow.. The most important thing how ever is to acknowledge that u have made a mistake and repent it. To ask for forgiveness from the bottom of your heart and most importantly forgive yourself !! 

To make mistake is to be humane. As long as u have learned your lesson, what your mistakes have taught you it is never really a waste. I surely have learned my lesson.

Have a great day/night. Don’t forget to forgive yourself today !!! 💗

Midnight Thought: Forgiveness (1 min. read)

Hello there, it’s been a long time since I posted anything because i didn’t feel like posting due to lack of inspiration or maybe i was just being lazy lol.

Nevertheless it’s 12:22 am here in india at present and i am unable to sleep. While pondering over the topic of forgiveness I asked myslef – “Am i really ready to forgive people who had hurt me in the past?” Just to clear the air I never hated a person until 2015 and 2016 it’s not that I have never disliked people and their behaviors it’s just that it never reached to the point of hatred. However stuff happened  in 2015 which revealed some true colours of people whom I considered “family”. Ignoring the people involved in 2015 and coming back to the question- “Am i really ready to forgive people who have hurt me in the past ( mainly 2016 lol )”

The answere will be yes mainly because I am not the kind of person who likes to hold onto grudges or the one who takes forever to forgive someone. However forgiving someone doesn’t mean i have to give them a second chance. I don’t want to put myself in a position where i’ll make the same mistake again by giving someone else the power of hurting me. For me it simply means that I am letting go of the hurt and moving on without expecting nor needing any apologies from them. 

Everyone is responsible for their own actions. They just showed who they are by doing what they did and i will show who i am by forgiving them and being the bigger person. I will eventually talk to them but never again giving them the power to hurt me anymore.

So there goes my rant ot the month . I’ll try and be more consistent and blog as much as possible. Leave your opinions down below regarding forgiveness I would love to hear from you all.

Have a happy day/evening/night, love Samina 💞

3 Easy ways to release anger..(1 min. Read)

1. Deep breathing : I know you must have heard about it a lot, but have you ever actually tried to do it when angry?

I have. And it works, trust me.

Now when you get angry at someone or something but are unable to do anything to release the anger try this –

• Start by taking a deep breath in and then breathe out slowy focusing all your unwanted enegry on the breathing exercise.

• Repeat this atleast 10 times each.( 10 deep breaths in and 10 deep breaths out)

It is like a quick meditation and will help you to calm down.

2. Go and drink water : Again this is tried and tested people, and it works too.

It works because by doing so it distracts you from the current situation that is making you angry. It calms your nerves down a bit so you can process things better rather than getting angry and pouring all your frustation out on the other person in the heat of the moment.

Little tip-  Concentrate on drinking water rather than the person or thing that is making you mad. 

Also if you are a short tempered person like me, practising this will keep you hydrated lol

3. Go for a walk/run : When things start to get out of hand, diffusing the situation is always the smartest choice.

It will help clear your mind and running will help release all the negative energy that has been building inside of you. Once you are calm and not angry anymore you will automatically make the right choice for yourself  and will try to resolve the problem with a practical approach.

Hope the above mentioned steps are helpful, if so let me know!!

Have a great day/night. Xoxo


3 reasons why you should be positive.

It’s important to have a positive outlook and here are 3 reasons why :

1. Like attracts like : We can all agree that the phrase “opposites attract” can only be associated to magnets and sometimes in relationships. However in real life, the energy you emitt as a person is the energy you really attract. If you are always focused on negative aspects of your life,  you will never ever notice the positives happening around you, as a result you will drown in the  sea of negativity. So having a positive outlook is important as it attracts positive and good vibes in return (ever heard about the law of attraction? ) which enables us to live a happy life.

2. Keeps depression at bay : Most of the time the key reason for people being depressed is that they dwell more on the negative aspects of their lives than the positives. In such cases we often miss the bigger picture which is the fact that the world doesn’t revolve arround us. Everyone has his or her share of problems and we have to deal with it. A person who is positive no matter what he/she is going through has almost a 100% chance of escaping depression as he/she appreciates the good little things in their lives more.

3. It makes us strong : There are times when everyone falls hard in life. Everyone hits rock bottom. However a positive person always knows that there is a light at the end of the tunnel and that you have to fall in order to rise. Having a postive outlook makes everything bearable. Its makes us strong mentally and emotionally. A positive person uses the time when he is down and out to analyse the things better. He learns to work hard and never give up upon his dream.

Having a positive outlook helps us in moving forward. Therefore, it is important to  be a positive person in life.

I hope you realise the importance of positivity while reading this article. Have an amazing and positive day/night 🙂 Lots of love xoxo


Know your worth!! (1 min read)

It is hard to believe the fact that there will be some people who will not always value you. You will be taken for granted. You will be hurt. And you may also be treated as a doormat. But the important question is Will you let them ?

Most of the time people don’t even realise that they are being mistreated !! They somehow believe that they don’t deserve happiness and it’s okay for the people to treat them the way they have always been treated. Because personally in my prior relationship I was being treated the same way, my opinions didn’t matter, I had no self value. I was being mistreated. And the sad part is that I would let him without even knowing that in the entire process I was letting myself down.I would let him degrade my self worth.I didn’t even realise that it was not normal the way he  made me feel low about myself. But then came the day when i finally knew.

The day that really changed my life is the day when I realised that I deserve so much better.  This was the day when i knew what  self-worth is and that no one in world could make me feel any less about myself.  I realised what i have been putting myself through and decided that is was time to move on and live a better life.

Yes the first step of knowing your self-worth is to acknowlege the fact that you deserve better. You deserve to be loved in the way you always wanted to be loved. You deserve to be happy. You deserve all the great things in life, because once you know your worth, you will never settle for anything less. You will never let people mistreat you. You will recognize situations which degrades your morals and you will learn to walk away form it.

Hence, recognize your  self worth .Know what you deserve and what you don’t. Because in the end once you do you will never settle for anything less.

Have an amazing day/night.

Xoxo :*